We celebrated our 52nd wedding anniversary yesterday. We certainly have no wise words about marriage, other than the simple fact that when you marry someone, you’re promising to share your LIVES with each other – in good times and bad. It’s a work in progress that involves thinking about the other person first, and nurturing your union each and every day.
Here are some quotes I like about marriage –
Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without. ~James C. Dobson
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. ~George Levinger
Often the difference between a successful marriage and a mediocre one consists of leaving about three or four things a day unsaid. ~Harlan Miller
I figure that the degree of difficulty in combining two lives ranks somewhere between rerouting a hurricane and finding a parking place in downtown Manhattan. ~Claire Cloninger
A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year. ~Paul Sweeney
A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time. ~Anne Taylor Fleming
Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then. Katharine Hepburn
The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. Henny Youngman
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Yesterday we celebrated the FIRST 52 years by sharing a seafood platter at The Dari. Today we begin the SECOND 52!
In the summer of 1960 a boy and a girl met and fell in love. She was 14 and he was 17. He went into the Marine Corps for 4 years while she finished junior high and high school. They were together when he was on leave.
He came home and they went to college – he at the University of Tulsa and she at Oklahoma State University. When she had one semester left of practice teaching, they married – June 14, 1969.
Today we celebrate sharing our lives for 52 years, and we haven’t killed each other! He asked me for another 52 years, and, in a moment of weakness, I said. “Let’s do it!”
We have a pretty good start now. We will enjoy sharing a seafood platter tonight in quiet celebration.
I have a yoga routine that I am trying to do every afternoon now. It’s “Old Lady” yoga, emphasizing good, long, slow stretches rather than asking me to fold my body into a paper airplane and then fly out the window.
I’m grateful to Kat Kabira for making a DVD that got me started several years ago now. She has given me the opportunity to get more flexible, strengthen my core muscles, lessen my pain, and learn to relax. (Of course, I actually have to DO the routine in order to reap its benefits. I am finally caught up enough from gremlins causing problems in our house that I am actively making time for my practice now.)
I’m also adding some positions to my core routine. Since it will be too hot, even with the fan on the all, to do my elliptical trainer out in the garage, a longer, richer yoga routine should take up some of the slack. I’m trying to add at least one new position to my routine each day.
I don’t want my body parts to fall off as I’m working in the garden. It’s good motivation to keep up the yoga…
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” ~ Margaret Wolfe Hungerford
Some say these birds are ‘ugly.’ In fact, I found these pictures when I used the search term, “Ugly Birds.”
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I love these birds. Their faces are full of character. I would much rather enjoy these birds than male cardinals, who wait for their mates to check an area out to see if it’s safe, and THEN will come and preen before taking a sunflower seed. This emu would as soon as peck you as say, “Hello.” I love him.
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I had never seen this bird before. He looks quite dignified to me. Royalty, for sure. :0)
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This has long been one of my favorite birds. He’s beautiful, isn’t he? He looks like he’s laughing.
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And this sweet bird is just trying to be left alone, hopefully camouflaged so he can catch a nap.
I admit I love all birds, but these hold a special place in my eye and heart.
We got out first thing this morning to tackle getting our irrigation system going. Mother Nature suddenly turned on summer here – going from unseasonably cool with lots and lots of rain to NO rain and ‘feels like’ indices of 100+.
Thankfully, no blowouts this time. I managed to reprogram the system, which thought it was January of 2007 when I started. I THINK I have it programmed now to start this evening, water for 10 minutes on station 1 followed by 10 minutes on station 2. I have my alarm set to check to make sure the system for the garden is working at 4:30 and then the yard system starts at 6:30. Fingers crossed.
I’m adding more products to my HandmadeHavenByLinda site on Etsy. I have several sales of 25% off running now, so I’m adding more choices for people to take advantage of the savings.
Welcome Wildlife
We have had several cottontail rabbits in our yard lately. Our dog, Amber, is too slow to even think about catching them, though she makes a good show of chasing them and woofing. I saw two first thing this morning – a very happy way to start my day. :0)
Now that we have the irrigation system going (hope, hope) I’m planning to enjoy a lazy day in the air conditioning until it’s time to check on the watering.
I’m having a good day so far, though – as you can see above – obviously not a good hair day…. :0)
First of all, IT’S NOT RAINING! In fact, from the look of the weather forecast, our rainy season has finally come to an end. This means that we need to get out some time this weekend – preferably this evening – and test our irrigation system, fix any blowouts, and schedule and run the system. Some of our spoiled plants – used to the cooler temperatures and lots and lots of rain, are starting to look wilted.
One of the last tasks remaining on the dismantling of the greenhouse project was to tie some neon pink surveyor’s tape on the stake in the ground so that the people who come (on no particular schedule that I can tell) to mow the gas company’s easement on the side of our yard won’t hurt themselves or their equipment running into or over the stake. I also took a sledgehammer. I hit the stake several times in all directions and was able to pull the stake completely out! So I brought the stake, hammer, and tape back to the house. Mission accomplished!
I took some pictures of some of the prettier things in our yard while I was out walking around.
This picture and the next are really making me smile today. Last year I had truly great elephant ears. I over-wintered them in peat moss in the garage and replanted them at the beginning of the spring. Nothing happened. :0( They were gone. I ordered some bulbs online in desperation. I received and planted three bulbs. Nothing was happening, so I decided that I wasn’t going to have anything. This one popped up yesterday. You can see the second one in the next picture. The third one hasn’t done anything, but I won’t be greedy. I am truly delighted and hope they will get large and lush.
I THOUGHT I had done pretty well on eating yesterday, but I GAINED half a pound. UGH.
We’ll leave in about an hour to meet our friends for Friday Lunch Bunch. I will eat HALF the chicken finger thingies, bringing the rest home to cut up for a main meal salad.
My biggest problem right now is that my husband and I aren’t in sync about what we’re eating and how much right now. Yeah. Yeah. I KNOW that I don’t have to eat just because my husband is eating. But I don’t seem to be strong enough to have him buy no sugar added ice cream and strawberries (plus strawberry cakes for himself), cut up the strawberries, and then NOT eat any. I AM leaving the cakes to him. We HAVE agreed that when we’re out of ice cream and strawberries (we have enough for tonight) we won’t buy more for awhile….
In my next life, I want to come back as someone who only eats for the nutrition, as fuel for my body, rather than having an appetite that would kill a horse.
Last night I felt my age was 108 or so. I spent some time in the yard yesterday, stuffing the remainder of the black plastic that used to be the floor of our now dismantled greenhouse into a leaf bag. I had stretched it out first thing yesterday so the sun would hopefully dry up the water and I could shake off the mud enough to get it into a bag. I hauled the bag around the back of the house to the garage, ready for next Tuesday’s trash pickup. I also spread a lot of grass seed on the rectangular section of mud out there now. Happily enough, we got a bit of rain later, so hopefully it’s a start for the area to go back to the tall grass area it was pre-greenhouse eventually. All that bending, pulling, and hauling and trips back and forth to the garage made my parts yell in protest later in the day, making my “feels like” age (like the heat index) soar to 108 or so.
I slept like a log last night, and feel only my actual age this morning. I have found that I have a new pet peeve – I react quite hostilely to being referred to as ‘elderly.’ I never thought about the word much. The picture in my head when I hear that word is someone VERY frail, who can barely get around, has little or no hearing, and can’t follow the conversation around him or her. They fall asleep at the drop of a hat, etc. (The fact that this sometimes is a good description of me is only a coincidence…. )
My hostility started during the pandemic, when they kept emphasizing the group at most risk for dying from the virus. I realized with horror they were talking about my husband and me! Yeah, we’re older than dirt and do have health issues, but that doesn’t translate to ‘elderly,’ in my opinion. We are fully vaccinated, so these two ‘elderly’ people are as safe as possible. I got hostile again this morning reading the local weather website. It’s suddenly summer here, and we may have to break down and turn on the a/c this afternoon. The forecast said, “Check on the elderly.” He was talking about US!
I get hostile realizing that the heartthrobs of the day on TV and in movies are young enough to be my son. At least I’m not old enough to be their grandmother – yet. I may be old, but I ain’t dead yet! I even feel maternal about my primary doctor! NOOOOOOO!!!!!!
I will just continue to keep on keepin’ on – working in my veggie garden; weed whacking in the yard; helping my husband get the irrigation system on, repaired, and scheduled; playing in my art room; reading; enjoying music; writing my blog posts; adding new products to my Etsy site; exercising; and more. Maybe I AM old enough to be considered ‘elderly,’ but I’ll think of myself as the person in the picture above until further notice. :0)
“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.” ~ Sophia Loren