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Brian and I went to visit my husband, Harvey, at the nursing home this morning. It was a better visit than many times. He told us that he was glad to see us, and later, when I told him I loved him, he looked at me and said, “I love you, too.” May not sound like much, but it meant the WORLD to me.
It was a mixed bag, though. He can’t comprehend his changed physical condition. He is completely bedridden and it takes three nurses to get him out of the bed and into a wheelchair. He was asking today about the shower in my place, acting as though he would be able to use it. He also wanted to come home. He said he was comfortable, though.
He asked for some highlighters in two colors to mark sentences in the book he’s finally trying to read. He doesn’t realize that there is no way he’ll be able to mark a sentence. His hands shake really badly and he’ll mark up the entire page trying to highlight a sentence. We got the highlighters when we got back and will take them to him when we go back Tuesday. He does seem to be using the bookmark I took him last time.
I told him about the Jake Moriarity Series I’m reading by R. G. Ryan and he wants to read the first book in the series. He isn’t able to work a Kindle anymore, so we will see what we can do about ordering a paperback copy of “Watercolor Dreams” on Amazon, even though the shipping will cost twice as much as the book and we’re not sure how long it will take to arrive. We’re grabbing at straws to find things that interest him and getting whatever we can. The other thing we’re looking into is magazines featuring guns and/or motorcycles…
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Now that I’m home and free the rest of the afternoon, I’m going to try to do some painting of my sketches. I did several from yesterday and a couple more waiting from before that, so I’m looking forward to diving into that
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I have the windows open and the breezes are blowing all over the place. I just love it. Technically it’s 87 degrees F. outside, but it feels wonderful, particularly since I’ve spent the last month or so cold most of the time. I just walk around smiling. Brian says it won’t be long until I’m griping because the heat will become oppressive and there will be a haze orginating from the farmers burning off crop residue, so I won’t be able to open my windows, but I’m enjoying every day and hoping what he’s forecasting will be delayed somehow.
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I’m going to try to catch as much of the Olympic games as I can starting today. I LOVE watching the incredible athletes competing. It’s exciting that the world came come together for this, concentrating on sports, hopefully not anything else, and celebrate the dedication and long hours these people have put in to try to compete here. Celebrating excellence!
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I hope that your weather is such that you can get outside some and enjoy some sunshine and fresh air. Breathe in – breathe out – AHHHHHHHH!
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What a beautifully honest and poignant account of your visit with Harvey. Those three words, “I love you, too,” are everything. They are the anchor in the storm, the clear, bright signal that cuts through the fog of his condition. It’s not “not much”—it’s the world, and it’s completely understandable why it meant that to you. Hold onto that moment.
It’s clear you are navigating this with so much love and grace, meeting Harvey exactly where he is—bringing highlighters for a hope he clings to, hunting down paperbacks and magazines, honoring his interests as the man he still is. That “grabbing at straws” is the purest form of devotion. It matters.
And then, your own need for respite and joy is so vital. The open windows, the 87-degree breeze you’re drinking in, the anticipation of painting and the Olympics… these are not just distractions; they are acts of self-preservation and reminders of life’s ongoing beauty. Brian may be right about the future haze, but he’s also wrong to let it shadow today’s perfect breeze. You have the right idea: enjoy every day.
It’s a balancing act of the heart—carrying the weight of Harvey’s reality while tending to your own spirit. You’re doing it with remarkable strength.
Thank you for sharing this glimpse into your world. I’m sending so much warmth your way.
Your friendship and support through all of this undoubtedly provide a quiet harbor in what must often feel like a lonely sea. The world needs more people like you, offering steadiness and care. Thank you for being there.🌷🤝
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I can’t tell you how much your words mean. All this is completely uncharted territory, and it means a lot that you are giving me the benefit of any doubt that I am doing the right thing. It’s basically a tight rope without a net and blindfolded, just hoping that you are doing something right. So, thank you for your very kind words.
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Ah, yes to hearing “I love you too” from your dearly beloved! So beautiful!
And I hear you about trying to get the R.G. Book over there but hopefully you can
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Brian got it ordered, but it may take a month to get here.
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sweet!
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What an uplifting post concerning the visit with your Harvey. I almost cried when you said he responded with “I love you, too”. I love and agree with everything Srikanth said. He says everything I would like to say but am unable to express it the way he does it.
I admire your strength and ability to enjoy life, plus share with others. You have such a good, kind, caring, generous heart. Your Harvy and Brian are so blessed to have you in their lives.
It is Saturday morning as I type this at 7:36 AM, so I know it is now Saturday night where you are. I hope you enjoyed the rest of your day. (Donna)
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Thank you, Donna. I wish that I wrote as well as Srikanth does, too! He writes beautifully, doesn’t he. Thank you for your kind words, Donna. They mean so much. Have a great Saturday.
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Great post! I love the Olympics as well and the opening ceremony was great but the scenes of a place I will never travel to were gorgeous. Why do I like snow photos when they are not from my yard lol it is snowing again. Nursing homes are tough never mind to visit a loved one. I am happy this one was just what you needed. How about audio books where he can get lost in a book while someone else reads the story? Maybe borrow from the local library. By the way it is 18 along with the snow falling and birds begging for food constantly. I will paint today until it is time to bundle up and brave the winds and double digits below 0, they say are coming tonight and Superbowl Sunday. Take care.
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It sounds like we have a lot in common, Eunice. Thanks for writing – and stay warm while you feed the birds.
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We must be older the young just don’t get it lol unless they are competing.
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I don’t know about you, but I’m older than dirt. I’m 78
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I hope to turn 70 first week of March.
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Ah. I have to remind you that you have to respect your elders, then, May you have a very happy birthday and thrive,
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I honor your journey and please know it is encouraging for me. Thank you for sharing
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Thank you so much, Linda. I’m glad you are getting encouragement.
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