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Never Regret

Nanea Hoffman gets it. She knows what is important in life and is trying to spread the word. The fact that she does it artistically and with humor is an added benefit to the wisdom of her ideas.

I have essentially run from one thing to another nonstop for years, I kept a calendar to mark off the days until something happened, ignoring the days that came before or after. That started when Harvey and I started dating, back in 1492 when I was 14 and he was 17 – having just joined the Marines. I was in 9th grade and all I wanted to do was spend time with Harvey and share his life. I lived from one leave to another, holding my breath in-between, only stopping to watch the mailman at the end of the driveway. If there was a letter from Harvey, the kind man would raise the red flag on the mailbox. He would have gotten in trouble for doing that, but I STILL think of him fondly. If the flag went up, I would dash down to the end of the driveway to get the mail. If the flag wasn’t raised, the mail was ignored by me.

I ignored or wished away junior high, high school and college. We finally married when I was 22.

I took too much for granted, assuming people would always be there, not realizing how fragile life is. I thought people knew how I felt, and I was embarrassed to tell them how much they meant to me, how happy I was to know them, how much I admired them, and more. And then I began to finally wake up when the first was suddenly gone. No time to SAY or DO anything. JUST HURT. And there it was, even in their passing, I was reacting to how MY life would be changed, how much “I” would miss them…

It has taken me dying and having the blessing to have a second chance at life to try to fully implement what Nanea is telling us – Live in the PRESENT. Take the time to LISTEN and SEE what is going on around you. RECOGNIZE when someone is hurting or down and might appreciate a boost, a kind word, a gentle hug, a smile. a squeezed hand, a meeting of the eyes telling them you appreciate them NOW.

I notice how wonderful the bird song is in the mornings on the way to the gym. How another bush has burst into bloom. How wonderful the breeze feels before it gets hot. How NICE it is to be able to walk on the treadmill without losing my balance. How much better my body feels when I’m walking.

How it only takes a SECOND to thank my son for all he is doing for me. How happy I am that we took his advice, sold or gave away everything in Arkansas and joined him here in Thailand. How grateful I am that my husband’s stroke was HERE, rather than in AR where we would have been hard pressed to pay for any of what has happened or get him the care he needs.

We all have the chance to slow down and start noticing. It really doesn’t take that long. Just take the opportunity to NOTICE and BE. One change leads to another. Being grateful and happy is contagious. Will you join Nanea and me?

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