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We’ve had a challenging day, and it’s only half over!
We went to visit Harvey at the nursing home. He announced he had made two decisions: he was going to order a Galaxy 16 phone and I was going to pay for it. He couldn’t answer what he would do with the phone or who he wanted to call. He was convinced that Ka Pook, his male nurse, was a professional soccer player. He is apparently unable to read the paperback book Brian bought for him or use the new Kindle we got for him. He showed no real interest in the magazine I brought for him today. He wanted to go outside, but preceded to untie his trousers! We left at that point, having taken all we could.
We got another letter from our insurance company in the states. I will call them again tonight and try to make some progress in getting Brian reimbursed for all of out of pocket hospital expenses he has paid. Definitely a lesson in character-building.
Other than that, we have no complaints. We stopped for chocolate on the way home from the nursing home. We had a nice discussion before Brian left for work. I got my laundry that was drying on the rack on my balcony inside just as the rain started!😀 I have some plans for a fun 3 hours or so now here in my condo.
I hope that your day or evening has been a good one.
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You really are an inspiration. Such resilience in the face of frustration and sadness when your dear harvey isn’t able to be the person you know so well at the moment. My mum had a massive stroke, so I really understand the unpredictable nature of the responses you get from Harvey. Your Brian sounds like a wonderful son- you and harvey did a great job raising him.
Your harvey is in there, just sometimes he’s harder to reach. I k ow its tough.
I love your daily blogs, hearing about what you are up to. Sending love and support . Lesley-Ann, Edinburgh, Scotland xx
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Lesley-Ann, thanks so much for your kind, caring words. I’m sorry about your mum. It sounds like you definitely know how devastating the aftermath can be for the ones who love them. Brian IS a wonderful man. He cares deeply for both Harvey and me. Harvey and I just lucked out on raising him. He is very much is own man and better than both of us put together. Thanks for your kind words about the blog, too. I love writing it, and it’s wonderful to know thqt you’re enjoying it. It means a lot.
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Aww, about Harvey. The old phrase, “Whatcha gonna do?” Comes to mind.
And then, “It is what it is.”
Ugh.
I imagine that’s frustrating.
For what it’s worth (and maybe helpful in regards to the insurance situation):
So, during a guided meditation last night, I had a vision about putting a finger in water (when asked to imagine lack). I then realized that I thought I could put a hole into the water! Ha! Of course I couldn’t! The water actually enveloped my finger and even entered my finger! It was a profound visual and aha moment!
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Thanks for your wise words. We will keep communicating with the nursing home, letting them know that we are not condoning this behavior. He says so many things that are untrue and then orders everyone around like an obnoxious, self-centered child. It’s hard to watch.
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That’s incredibly frustrating! Like he’s a different person! I think you mentioned that you asked if his medications could be causing this, if not I am mistaken. But I do wonder if it could be related to his meds. Else, just a symptom of the stroke? He didn’t seem so out of his mind when he was in the hospital, did he?
This must be hard for you, Linda. I am so sorry. You are strong and positive!
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He wasn’t like this in the hospital, but he was recovering from two surgeries, and in pain or asleep most of the time.
We have requested that the doctors at the hospital stop all meds not essential to his life.
I do feel he is a different person now. It is extremely hard, but it could be worse. He is not in pain and seems to be comfortable. That may be the best we can hope for. One day at a time. Thanks so much for your support.
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