Here is my haircut – after getting caught in two separate rain storms and one stretch of hot sun and lots of humidity after I came out of the salon. At least I have gone from “dandelion gone to seed” to “someone has a plan.” I need to learn how to use the mousse we got at a drug store a bit ago.
I looked out my window this morning at 5am and thought, ‘Good. It’s not raining.’ By the time Brian and I were going to the gym, the rain had started. Not enough for the rain suits, but enough for umbrellas.
I washed my hair, cleaned up, and had breakfast with Bri. Later we went to my hair appointment. Of course the man didn’t speak English. I showed him a picture I had gotten from the net about the basic idea I had in my mind, but had Brian tell him I wanted him to use his expertise and do whatever he thought would look best.
We then went to visit Harvey after two days of not going – to see what happened. Short version, he had not missed us, he had very little to say to us today, was not happy to see us. He just was concerned about food and drink, and wanted his phone so that he could email his mom and dad, both of whom have been gone 20 years or so and never had computers or email. I had brought him an old magazine, and he was happier about that than anything else. He did recognize me, but didn’t say anything in particular. Disheartening to say the least, but we did learn that he was calm, hadn’t pined for us, so our plan going forward is to visit less, hoping he’ll get with the program there more and more. We’ll plan to bring him the strawberry drink he likes, magazines, books, etc. each time we go, and will try not to agonize. He seems comfortable and is not hurting. We took coffee that you just heat up some water for and asked if he could have one cup of coffee a day. What is is what is.
Tomorrow is a busy day for us. I have the gym at 5 and then breakfast, taking sheets and towels for Brian to wash in his machine. I have my massage at 10:00. Then I get ready for Kuhn Nong to come clean from 2:30 to 5:30. Somewhere between 2:00 and 3:00, the movers are supposed to come and remove my people swallowing sofa. We’re hoping it will be closer to 2 so they’ll be gone before Nong arrives. Brian and I will ‘disappear’ while Nong is here to give her peace and quiet while she cleans.
The new sofa will be delivered sometime on June 5th, so I’ll be a bit uncomfortable for 6 days. We ordered a sofa that has the same L-shape, with a lounge part on the dining area end, and nice quality, so it will definitely be worth the wait.
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Ohh, I can feel your discontent or disheartened feelings through your words about Harvey. It is sad that it sounds like he is retreating into himself and the past (when speaking about wanting to email his parents). It’s almost as though he is living in another dimension!
But I feel like that’s not easy for you to see. So, I would do the same. Visiting less. Though anything is probably a double edged sword regarding visiting or not. Ugh. I am sorry to hear this, dear Linda.
As for waiting on the new couch, it will be worth it. I would just lay in the bed more until it arrives. Your condo is sure coming along nicely!
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Living in another dimension is a good way of describing the situation, Sheila. He’s back at least 20 years. It’s sad that he can’t use his phone, PLUS that he doesn’t believe us when we tell him his parents are gone, even showing him their obituaries. He is in his own world where “someone” comes to visit and bring him goodies. I’ll learn to deal with it in time. Thanks for writing.
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It’s mysterious and sad, Linda. I’m so sorry.
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Your support means a lot, Sheila. Thank you.
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I’m so glad. You’re welcome. And you’re a big support to me too!
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I’m glad you feel that way. Support with friends and sisters of the soul should go both ways. ❤️
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Nice haircut, Linda! I can understand how disheartening the situation with Harvey is, but what really matters is that he is receiving the care he needs, something you wouldn’t be able to do at home. Hopefully, better days will come! You know? There is a proverb/saying in Spanish that goes “No hay mal que dure 100 años, ni cuerpo que lo resista.” I don’t know if there is an equivalent phrase in English, but the translation would be something like this: “No evil lasts 100 years, nor can any body withstand it.” 😉
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I’m glad you like the haircut, Susy. I am learning to deal with ‘what is’ gradually with Harvey. The big thing is that he’s getting good care at the nursing home – all else fades in comparison.
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So beautiful your hairstyle. Nice look 😄. Congratulations you purchased new sofa. Good your walk to Gym.
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Most welcome ,Linda 😄
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I love your haircut. With all of the rain and humidity it seems just perfect and easy to care for.
I know it is not easy to visit your husband and have your hopes dashed that he was not able to interact with you and your son on your visit. Accepting what is has to be hard, but you seem to make the best of it. You are a very strong and resilient woman. I truly admire you. I don’t know for sure, but I would think your son takes after you with his kindness and thoughtfulness.
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Thanks for your kind words about my haircut. It will take awhile to be able to do a reasonable job with the mousse, but it already looks SO much better than it did.
I wish we could take credit for the wonderful man Brian is, but he does kind things every day. It’s just who he is.
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