We have been at the hospital since 9:30 this morning. It is now almost 5p.m.
We have watched his swallowing therapy. He is able to swallow better and can feed himself a bit without choking. On a last drink of thickened water, he went to sleep with a mouthful of water . He didn’t choke, but very well could have.
We watched him in therapy for hand eye coordination and verbal skills – and then two sessions of large muscle therapy today.
He did not recognize Brian or me at all and reacted very little.
We are now researching nursing homes close to our condo building. We want to be sure he is comfortable and gets the nursing care he needs. Physical therapy is secondary right now and I am not physically able, even with a live-in nurse, to provide the care he needs. We are hoping this will be a temporary move, but no one knows for sure now.
It is hard to accept when you have little control over something this important, but we will do the very best we can for my husband.
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I’m so sorry that you and Brian are having to make these decisions for Harvey. It’s hard having to have them stay in a nursing home. They will have the staff and equipment to give Harvey the best care. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
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It’s very hard, Lynn. Thank you for your kind words.❤️
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I am so sorry for what you and your son are going through with Harvey. I am glad that you have your son to help you make these decisions, as it has to be very difficult. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.
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Thanks so much for your caring words. I can’t tell you how much they mean. ❤️
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Now he is very well & you don’t Physical therapy is secondary right now and you are not physically able, even with a live-in nurse, to provide the care he needs. It’s hard having to have them stay in a nursing home. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. Thanks God 🙏
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Thank you, Raj. It’s so hard when what we can do isn’t good enough. We are searching to find the best care for him now. All the rest will come from that. We leave soon to go to the hospital. Thank you for your kind words. ❤️
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You are most welcome, Linda 💖! Kindness your reply. Don’t mind I know it’s so hard but doing Best Care. You are very strong.
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Thanks. I’m trying to be.
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Most welcome ,Linda 😌
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Oh I’m so sorry about this! I’m so glad you are both there with Brian though. He will know or find the best place for his dad, where he will receive the best care. I still keep thinking, if this had to happen, it would have been so much worse if you still lived here, because you’d be so far from him. If that makes sense.
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Yes, it makes perfect sense, and I feel the same way. We will find the best care we can for him, and continue to visit him often, hoping that with continued care and rehab, he can one day join me at the condo. This is really hard, but we have to keep our priorities straight. Thanks so much for writing. I appreciate it very much.❤️
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Oh, darn. I had thought he was making progress. I feel so bad for you and Brian having to go through this, Linda. And I feel sad for Harvey! Ugh
I do hope you find a good care home for Harvey though. Prayers. Hugs. And big heart waves to you ALL from back home.
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Thanks, Sheila. I kept hoping for the best, ignoring some really strong signs right in front of me that I wouldn’t be able to care for him at the new condo, even with live-in help. A nursing/rehab place will give him the best care and the best chance of rejoining me one day. We are researching carefully and will visit each candidate. We knew immediately that the people in the hospital were caring people. We will recognize the same at the nursing home. Thanks for writing, Sheila. I appreciate you. ❤️
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Can only send hugs xxx
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Hugs are everything. Thank you so much. Thanks for writing AND the great hugs.❤️
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Linda, I totally understand how difficult a decision like this has to be for you and your son! Not so long ago, our family went through a similar situation with my father-in-law, but it was the right decision at the time since it was nearly impossible to provide the right care at home. Sending tons of good vibes your way! 🙂
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Thank you, Susy. I appreciate your kind words. I’m sorry that you had to go through a similar thing. It kind of tears you in half, doesn’t it, even though you know you’re doing the right thing. We will research and visit all the places that look promising until we find one we feel cares. I’m hopeful that with the proper care, he may be able to join me in the new condo. Again, thanks for writing.
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