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Thank goodness for chocolate therapy! We needed it after our visit with Harvey today at the nursing home. He was sitting in the wheelchair on the front porch when we arrived, but he was having a bad day. He was almost totally unresponsive.
The few questions he answered were totally inaudible. He simply mouthed the words. I, who have trouble hearing him when he IS audible and have to try to read his lips, couldn’t understand a thing he said today.
Apparently he had only two things on his mind. He wanted us to bring him a phone so that he could order what he’s seeing on TV. He has no idea where he is. He has no bank account, and we finally cut off the credit card on any accounts we have had in the past so that he can’t get on and order anything. He thinks he is in Arkansas or Oklahoma. He has no idea of money, or whether it makes sense to order what he has seen. He has seen it and he wants it.
The other thing he wanted was a hamburger and French fries. Brian ordered this for him, even though we’ll also pay for the meal they would have served him for lunch today. We watched him eat it. He didn’t say anything or even look pleased. He did wolf down the French fries, but only ate about half the burger.
We had brought him a new, simplified, Kindle, that was only for reading books. Brian had even downloaded all the books Harvey had on his old Kindle onto the new one. We tried to show him how to use it, but he just wasn’t catching on. We will try again next time.
So, today’s visit was a super challenge and very depressing. There just ‘wasn’t anyone in there today.”
We stopped on the way home for chocolate therapy to try to maintain sanity. Hopefully, the next visit will be a good one.
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Aww! Tears!!!
So sad about Harvey. 😭😭😭
I am happy you and Brian got chocolate therapy though. That’s the bright spot for sure, Linda.
And you did your best getting Harvey the hamburger and fries and Kindle. Ugh
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Your words mean so much. Thank you.
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What a sad and disappointing way to find him the way you did. I know that has to hurt more than words can say.
Even though the chocolate could not “fix” the problem, at least you did get something good from the day.
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Thank you for your kind words. They mean so much.
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I’m sorry it didn’t go better, but like you said, next time may be better. I’m hoping so.
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We need to learn to stand back a bit and try not to react so personally. We need to keep our priorities straight – to try to make him comfortable and as content as possible. It isn’t about US. It’s about HIM. HE didn’t realize he was having a “bad day.” It’s a process. Thanks so much for your kind words and hope.
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Rats! I wish Harvey hadn’t been having a bad day. 😢 But I have to say, chocolate is always in order, and I hope it made you guys feel at least a little better!🍫🍩
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Seeing Harvey is simply devastating sometimes, and chocolate is much more effective than crying 😢
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chocolate cures so many things.
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Boy, do I agree with THAT! 🤪
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