Brian and I went to the hospital to visit Harvey as usual this morning. He was sitting in a chair (!) eating his breakfast, mainly able to feed himself with careful monitoring to make sure he swallows between bites or sips, rather than sitting there with his mouth full and then choking later.
We left mid morning to visit a nursing home we are considering for Harvey, who will be discharged from the hospital in a few days. It was good in lots of ways, with lots of care-giving things we liked. I wasn’t sold, however, and we went back to the hospital thinking we could accept this as a temporary place for him at least.
This afternoon we went to another place, farther out. I immediately felt good as we walked up to the door. The people simply exuded caring. We were shown all over, they answered our questions, will visit the hospital to see Harvey and meet with his doctors and the nurses who have been taking care of him to make sure they understand what has been happening and what he needs. The hospital and the nursing home will work together on transporting Harvey to the new place.
The decision is still ripping me in half. No one can control situations like this, though, and I will feel he is in good, caring hands here. If it’s temporary, that would be wonderful. If it’s not, I can see him being comfortable and content here. It’s a reasonable distance for us to travel to visit a lot, so this is the best outcome I could have hoped for at this point.
The other good news is that the closing for the new condo has been moved to tomorrow morning, instead of Wednesday. Hopefully, Brian will return with the keys and we can move my stuff out of the air bnb and into the new condo tomorrow. I don’t have to hurry to get settled. I want to leave the air bnb as clean and orderly as I can, showing the owner how much I appreciated having a nice place to stay in the same building as Brian since we arrived in Thailand.
I haven’t really slept for two days with all this important stuff flying around in my feeble brain, so I’m hoping I can sleep well tonight, being on the road to some big solutions.
Brian and I celebrated our news, stopping for some cappucino and some cookies (!) I haven’t had cookies in over two years or so. They were delicious!!!😁.
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Oh, there’s so much to be thankful for, Linda. I hear you. I can’t imagine having to make this choice (about nursing or care homes) either. Hugs! Glad you enjoyed the cookies!
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The lady at the coffee place brought those cookies to us – just being nice – because she knows Brian and our situation. Those were some of the best cookies I’ve ever eaten, and I’m a long time cookie connoisseur! I finally slept some last night. I’m SO thankful we found a good, caring place that will give him what he needs.
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Yay! That’s all good news, Linda! It’s like the pieces of the puzzle are finally falling into the right places! 🙂
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Yes! I’m starting to feel relief that some of the hardest things are almost done.
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Wishing you smooth sailing here on out! You’re doing the best thing for Harvey…good care, kind caregivers, and new friends…And he will still have you, too!!
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Thanks so much for your kind words! Yes, he’ll have me always. We’ll celebrate our 56th anniversary in June. I hold out hope that maybe we can be together again by then. If not, we really hit the jackpot on caring people yesterday. Thanks for writing. 😊
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I know you must feel relieved to find such a nice place with caring people to take care of your husband. I am sure he would be so proud of you for all you have done and continue to do to take such good care of him. You are such a strong and amazing woman, and I am glad I found your site some time back. Thank you for sharing so much of your life with us and allowing us to help by praying for you and your family.
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Thank you for your beautiful, caring words. I appreciate the prayers offered by so many wonderful people here. They really help our whole family. I’m so grateful our son is right by my side in all of this, doing lots and lots of research on each issue, traveling with me, helping me make the best decisions possible, and more. We are so, so lucky to have him. We will celebrate our 56th wedding anniversary in June. What a gift it would be to have him recognize us again. I want to wish he’ll be home with me by then, too, but we can’t control what is. We must just learn to accept what is and deal with it the very best we can, one day at a time. Thanks for your encouragement. It means more than I can tell you.
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Iam so happy you can sleep well tonight. Enjoy delicious cookies. You are such a strong and amazing woman,💪 Thank you for sharing so much of your life with us and allowing us to help by praying for you and your family. God bless you. Tack care.
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Thank YOU!
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Most welcome !
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